While looking over the MSN home page, I came across an article written by Karen Salmansohn titled, “How not to be a jerk during your next fight”. I found it curious how this article seemed so familiar to any discussion or fight in a relationship. Most people have this problem and seem tangled up in the many labyrinths of understanding what his or her partner feels or doesn’t and what to do and what not to do about it.
Salmansohn quotes Aristotle by saying: “Anybody can become angry- that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way- that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.” I believe this is true. Most of the time we fight for no reason at all, at the wrong moment, using exactly the wrong terms, at exactly the wrong degree. This article talks about how woman see, how men see fights, and how they can work together to put in what the author calls the “virtue of discipline” which can be a plus in any discussion, be a relationship or not.
I strongly recommend this article because it can help so much with patience as with realistic views on how to deal or undeal with arguments. I believe little things can be dealt with and solved but many little things can build up and cause a much greater thing to occur. For this reason, “How not to be a jerk during your next fight” is a plus for today’s society.
SEE ARTICLE:
http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/articleoprah.aspx?cp-documentid=22451125>1=32023
